44: Ego Is Still The Enemy

Ryan Holiday and his book ‘Ego is the Enemy’ is still impacting me

Just the other day I saw how my ego and ultimately insecurities can get in the way of my progress or even in a simpler way, my enjoyment of life

Pride and insecurities are two sides of the same coin. Both are ultimately emotions the ego uses to protect itself

There’s nothing harder than letting go of something when you feel like you’re in the right. That entitled feeling causes me to hold on to the ‘wrongs’ done to me like my life depended on it

My ego flares up, my pride comes to the forefront and in that moment, if left unchecked, I could behave in ways that could alter my life for the worst

Ego will always be with me. Ego will always seek to ‘protect me’ and ego will also get in my way if I leave it unchecked

So will yours too if you let it

Be well

SRZ

34: Dead Time

Imagine being locked away from society because you needed to be rehabilitated?

That’s what each prisoner is doing while in jail, or at least that’s the idea. The time spent in prison will help them make better choices when they finally come out

We all know that hardly ever works, at least not for the majority of prisoners. Instead, once released, the inmate will most likely find a way to end up right back where they now feel they belong

Why?

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20: Don’t be passionate

Imagine that!

What book would advocate for its readers not to be passionate?

Ryan Holidays!

In Ego is the Enemy – Ryan suggests that the reason why so many of us fail to actually accomplish anything is because we are too passionate about it. We care so much that we consume our time with talking about our passions rather than doing something about it

Passion can be seen in those who can tell you in great detail who they intend to become and what their success will be like – they might even be able to tell you specifically when they intend to achieve it or describe to you legitimate and sincere worries they have about the burdens of such accomplishments. They can tell you all the things they’re going to do, or have even begun, but they cannot show you their progress. Because there rarely is any

Those of us with great visions of grandeur may be able to articulate exactly what it is we will accomplish in this world but ask anybody of true grit and experience and they will tell you just how hard it is to make anything of yourself

It certainly doesn’t require passion to do so

Passion typically masks weakness

Are we trying to compensate for our lack of experience or competence in our chosen field of endeavours by being so ‘passionate’ about it?

What humans require in our ascent is purpose and realism

Ryan seems to think we are and I think he’s managed to get me to agree.

I only need to use my own life as a case study for this. As I read this chapter I simultaneously reflected on my life and the multiple things I’ve once been passionate about

Most of them I did not follow through with, many of them I barely got started with and yet if you had met me at the time of my intense passion for any one of those things, I’m confident I would of sold you on my dreams and aspirations at the time

Dreams and aspirations that would later fade into the memories of my yesteryears

What I needed was not passion or at least not passion alone but rather a heavy dose of realism.

Had I known the reality of what it would truly take to actualise my passions, I would not be bragging about them because I’d be so concerned with the many pitfalls that day in and day out my time would be consumed with preparation, execution, feedback, adjustment and execution again

While doing all of that – I don’t think I’d have time to be so ‘passionate’

The critical work that you want to do will require your deliberation and consideration. Not passion

Needless to say, this chapter gave me much to think about in how I presently approach my work

Be well

SRZ

19: Ego Is The Enemy

So I’ve finished reading ‘The 4 Hour Work Week’ by Tim Ferris and now I’ve picked up this

I’m already 5 or 6 chapters in and in my opinion Ryan Holiday is a genius, for the simple fact that he probably would despise being called a genius

So far in Ego is the enemy, I have discovered that our lack of success in relationship, chosen career and ultimately: Life! Comes down to one simple thing: EGO

As I read this book, my own ego is taking a beating, left, right and centre because I recognise myself in the many anecdotes Ryan uses to illustrate the points he’s making

I am discovering just how focused on outward ‘success’ I have become as opposed to doing good work because it benefits everyone to do so

As I move through the chapters, my entitled mentality, my need for recognition and desire to be ‘better’ than, have ‘more’ than others begins to rise up to the surface

I don’t know how I’ll feel by the end of reading this book but as I progress through it right now, one thing is certain, I’m finally reading a book that feels timely to my life experience right now

If I have any hope of side stepping my ego so that I can truly do things that matter even if only to me, then I think I need to internalise this book

I used this view to contemplate the things I had learned today

Be well

SRZ