Adicts Anonymous

What’s your poison?


The majority of us will unfortunately have something, perhaps not as life destroying as the above but something nonetheless


12 Step programmes say that the first step towards getting over an addiction is admitting that you have a problem

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Food – Sex – Alcohol – and even Love

love addiction

People can fall in love with the feeling of falling in love. As an addict of many things, harmless to others as all of mine may be, it’s still very harmful to me and causes a lot of internal destruction

Kill it while it’s still weak enough to be destroyed – seek help, trust in the process and do not believe in or expect to do things perfectly, steps in the right direction, no matter how small will always lead you to your desired finish line

Help is always available – please seek it if your life is becoming unmanageable

Be well


Quick Fixes….


I’ve read countless books

Listened to thousands of hours of sermons, podcasts, lectures, audiobooks, anything I could get my hands on

I’ve sought advice from anyone willing to give it

I’ve distracted myself with work, chasing love, talking on the phone for hours, passion projects, parties, charitable services……….. and yet nothing

The fix I was looking for and hoping to get just didn’t happen. I couldn’t fix myself or put myself together

I tried religion, yes, I tried Jesus and for a while, it felt like that thing I was looking for was finally found through my faith in him

But eventually

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Use it or lose it

Life can’t be just highlights of all the good parts yet skip over all the hard but necessary for growth parts

The whole point of it must be to experience it all, each phase, each season and each period as it is happening without wanting to jump to the next point in time

I say this with the full knowledge that I actually don’t know what the point of life is other than to live out the purpose we were all made for – each persons purpose being as unique as their fingerprint

So we all do ourselves a disservice playing the comparison game

Some people are just blessed with way more natural talent than the rest of us, while others have inhuman capabilities when it comes to their work ethic, resilience and consistency  Continue reading “Use it or lose it”

Keep Making Small Adjustments

A plane fly’s off course to its destination for 90% of its journey

The other 10% of the time, pilots continuously make adjustments to bring the plane back on track and ultimately arrive at its final destination

The irony of life is the contrasting elements necessary to make it actually work

As I think about it, life is a set up of opposites. Light/Darkness, Love/Fear, Acceptance/Resistance, Success/Failure, Birth/Death and on and on it goes

They say life is a journey, not a destination. I can see the wisdom in that

Focusing too much on the end result means you ultimately miss out on appreciating the drama it took to get to that end result

Since you’re going to be on the journey much longer than you are at your destination, it only makes sense to enjoy the ride

Wealth may be my chosen end result (for example) but once obtained, I doubt it will keep me satisfied for long if I don’t make another aim – though, truth be told, I can’t be sure until I have it, as the same goes “they say money can’t buy you happiness but everybody wants to find out for themselves”

But what would probably make me content and fulfilled is the journey of learning how to earn that wealth and the hustle of applying that knowledge

They say, set high goals, not because of what you’ll get out of them but for what they will make of you to achieve them

I’ve set my goal for this year – lose weight. And if, better yet, when I achieve this, the greatest accomplishment won’t be the better body size or even health I’ll obtain but rather I anticipate it will be the habit of personal discipline I acquire because of said goal

But I’ll be off track 90% of the time

It may feel like I’m not even heading in the direction of where I ultimately want to go

I’ll just have to keep reminding myself that that’s okay

Life isn’t linear

It doesn’t move in a straight line all the time. Sometimes, you get taken on detours that you couldn’t anticipate when you first set out on your journey

Some detours are pleasant – so pleasant in fact that you can often be tempted to set up camp there – don’t!

Comfort and pleasure are nice and all but they serve as a distraction to fill up your time. It’s similar to a tour guide pointing things out to you as you journey to your destination, it’s nice to look at and you appreciate the experience but that’s not what you ultimately paid for, you paid to arrive some place

Some detours are horrible, making you want to spend as little time there as possible. These are the setbacks that you didn’t and couldn’t anticipate

It’s the breakups and redundancies, the health issue and political unrest, the crazy family drama, personal dilemmas that we all face from time to time

We notice these straight away because as mentioned, they feel horrible and if there is one thing human beings can’t stand, is pain, of any kind

We do whatever we can to avoid, escape or ignore pain whenever it shows up

But the irony of life is, pain is one of the quickest ways for a person to grow

But even with the growth, it’s still a detour and you definitely shouldn’t linger there too long

As they say, don’t get bitter, get better

Move on

So what are you supposed to do?

I couldn’t tell you that because I always feel uncomfortable being told what to do myself so why would I do that to someone else?

Especially when they didn’t ask!

But some ideas and suggestions around this would be to remain as open minded as possible

Being flexible will help you take on whatever comes your way with less resistance

I’d also recommend paying attention to detail

The ship or plane won’t course correct itself, even a plane flying on autopilot still has to be programmed by a human being to do so

How much more your life

Yes you’ll be off track more often than you are on track but if you do nothing about it then you flat out won’t reach your destination

So pay attention, that way you can notice sooner rather than later when you start veering off track and quickly course correct

Last but most importantly, take action

I’d always encourage anybody, starting with myself, to take action more than anything else.

After all, nothing happens without taking action

Results is the name of the game and actions breed results

So don’t be discouraged when you inevitable find yourself off the set path

Recognise its not the first or last time this will happen

and actually it’s rather normal

Open your mind to the new possibilities, pay attention to how you can maximise them then take action

I feel off track with this blog, I’ll keep adjusting until I’m back on track