42: Where Your Treasure Is….

That’s where your heart is

Wanna know what someone really cares about despite what they tell you? Ask them two things

Where do you spend most of your time?

On what do you spend most of your money?

Ask most people to do something with you or for you and their excuse for not being able to usually falls somewhere between, “I can’t afford it” or “I don’t have time right now”

But the truth is we all have time for something….what is that something for you?

What or who would you make time for no matter what, regardless of what else could be going on in your life?

Whatever or whoever came to mind, that’s where your heart resides

We show we care by spending time and money, yet given the choice, most of us would choose the time over the money

Spending money is relative to the person spending it. If I’m a child with wealthy parents then I may not care all that much for their gifts and lavish lifestyles opportunities they bestow upon me. No, in that scenario i would much rather their time, them being wealthy only means that they most likely have limited time to spare

So I’d rather receive their time because in doing so they would demonstrate to me that I am a priority

Now, a pot of money from my working class parents would mean the world to me because I’d know fully well what they’ve sacrificed to get me those resources

So really and truly, our treasure resides where we are most willing to sacrifice

What have you being sacrificing recently?

Has it been worth it?

I hope so

Be well

SRZ

41: Too Many Directions

I feel like I’m being pulled in too many directions

Maybe I’m trying to do too much at once or perhaps I’m just not managing my time to the best of my abilities

I don’t even want to write anymore. I have nothing that I feel is worth saying. I’m maxed out

I don’t like writing ‘dear dairy’ content but lately it seems that’s all I have time to write

It’s time to buckle down. They say when you feel like you have the least time is when you should make the most time for yourself, get yourself balanced and centred

There’s only so much you can do as a person and there is only one direction you can run towards at any given time

So find a way to discover or in my case, rediscover the direction that is most important to you and head towards it

Ultimately we are all in control of our lives and therefore we should exert this incredible gift and take our lives forward in a manner that will make us most happy

Be well

SRZ

38: No Pedestals

Nobody is perfect so if you want to be, better think about how to become a nobody….

Okay, that’s a pretty lame joke but it’s tinged with a lot of truth

I have a tendency in relationships to place someone I’m interested in on a pedestal which frankly they probably didn’t ask for and if they did, that would be a major red flag

Don’t place anyone on a pedestal

They are just human. They do things they wish they hadn’t, they get embarrassed, they lie, they have hoped and dreams just like you and me

Placing them on a pedestal or bestowing on them characteristics that they do not have or have yet to demonstrate is a dangerous game and will only go to hurt you in the long run

I’ve recently started crushing (again) on a friend who was respectful and clear that she didn’t feel the same way, the first time I felt how I felt

My mind has been thinking about whether now could be a better time than last time, I wondered if she’s involved with anybody and that thought alone triggers an emotional reaction

That’s a red flag – on my part

I need to deal with that before it hinders my progress and social development in life

Truth is I will probably always feel something for her but the pedestal has to go

To place her on that level while ignoring my own worth is not only unhealthy but it’s equally unattractive

Why do I write all this?

Because it’s what I’m currently feeling, to write anything else would be tantamount to ignoring myself – another red flag

If you’re gonna have s pedestal that you place anybody on, try a higher power or a purpose or mission that inspires you to become that best you can be

Otherwise, no pedestals for anybody, including yourself. Don’t be a narcissist- you guessed it….it would just be another red flag

Be well

SRZ

35: Crawling Forward

I’m always amazed at the level of tiredness I feel after a production shoot

It’s a wrap for ‘first corporate gig’ – (super thrilled) and now it’s over to the edits

I literally can’t get anything more from my brain today so this was my best attempt at crawling forward

Be well

SRZ

34: Dead Time

Imagine being locked away from society because you needed to be rehabilitated?

That’s what each prisoner is doing while in jail, or at least that’s the idea. The time spent in prison will help them make better choices when they finally come out

We all know that hardly ever works, at least not for the majority of prisoners. Instead, once released, the inmate will most likely find a way to end up right back where they now feel they belong

Why?

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33: Good Work

There’s a certain kind of satisfaction that comes from having worked really hard on something you truly enjoy and put your all into

Nothing can take away from a good days work when you know you’ve done all you can do

Contentment and satisfaction are it’s own reward

Good work brings with it it’s own reward

Just thinking out loud

I am satisfied

Be well

SRZ

30: Just A Few Adjustment

I struggle with being tidy and organised. So whenever I need to do some cleaning up, it never ceases to amazing me what a few tiny adjustments can do to the appearance of a desk or a room

Put things in their proper place and suddenly the whole place looks all the better for it

It got me thinking about life. Could this be the case with life too? That we are all just a few tiny adjustments and changes away from making our life the better for it?

Could it be that a short daily walk would benefit your mind and your body because you will be taking in the fresh air, spending time with your self and walking so the exercise box is ticked as well

What if sitting down Sunday evenings to plan for the week ahead would result in you being 10 times more productive? It would probably take you no more than 39 minutes to do this

What if I adjusted my perspective or attitude towards something or someone, could that result in me seeing the person or situation in a completely different light?

Perhaps life change and transformation is a lot easier to achieve than we like to believe

What in your life could benefit from small, manageable adjustments?

If something comes to mind, why not try it and see whether to actually does make a difference

You’ve got very little to lose and potentially so much to gain

Go for it

Be well

SRZ

28: People Pleasing

I like to be liked

I like knowing that people think of well me. I don’t like displeasing people

Problem is, needing to be liked leads to not having a backbone

Now I would never say I’m spineless, I don’t consider myself a coward in any shape or form

But when I get caught up in making everyone happy, I get dragged in so many different directions that I ultimately end up not pleasing anybody

Recently, a friend pulled out of a deal we had already set up. That’s not what hurt me, what disappointed me more than being let down by someone I assumed I could count on was the apparent distrust in me she suddenly displayed

And all over money

They say money and the amount we earn, save and invest is a very emotional thing. We all have our own relationship with money

Some of us hoard it because growing up we never had enough. Yet, for others, they don’t feel worthy of having more than enough so whenever they get paid, they find a way to spend spend spend it all away

I have my own journey with money but for someone I consider a friend to essentially let me down over money, to question my character over money….yeah that hurts

But within it is a lesson to be learned about not seeking to be a people pleaser

what matters more than what others think of you is what you think about yourself.

Not everybody you meet will like you

And that’s okay. It’s not okay to try to get them like you though

Respect yourself

Be well

SRZ

20: Don’t be passionate

Imagine that!

What book would advocate for its readers not to be passionate?

Ryan Holidays!

In Ego is the Enemy – Ryan suggests that the reason why so many of us fail to actually accomplish anything is because we are too passionate about it. We care so much that we consume our time with talking about our passions rather than doing something about it

Passion can be seen in those who can tell you in great detail who they intend to become and what their success will be like – they might even be able to tell you specifically when they intend to achieve it or describe to you legitimate and sincere worries they have about the burdens of such accomplishments. They can tell you all the things they’re going to do, or have even begun, but they cannot show you their progress. Because there rarely is any

Those of us with great visions of grandeur may be able to articulate exactly what it is we will accomplish in this world but ask anybody of true grit and experience and they will tell you just how hard it is to make anything of yourself

It certainly doesn’t require passion to do so

Passion typically masks weakness

Are we trying to compensate for our lack of experience or competence in our chosen field of endeavours by being so ‘passionate’ about it?

What humans require in our ascent is purpose and realism

Ryan seems to think we are and I think he’s managed to get me to agree.

I only need to use my own life as a case study for this. As I read this chapter I simultaneously reflected on my life and the multiple things I’ve once been passionate about

Most of them I did not follow through with, many of them I barely got started with and yet if you had met me at the time of my intense passion for any one of those things, I’m confident I would of sold you on my dreams and aspirations at the time

Dreams and aspirations that would later fade into the memories of my yesteryears

What I needed was not passion or at least not passion alone but rather a heavy dose of realism.

Had I known the reality of what it would truly take to actualise my passions, I would not be bragging about them because I’d be so concerned with the many pitfalls that day in and day out my time would be consumed with preparation, execution, feedback, adjustment and execution again

While doing all of that – I don’t think I’d have time to be so ‘passionate’

The critical work that you want to do will require your deliberation and consideration. Not passion

Needless to say, this chapter gave me much to think about in how I presently approach my work

Be well

SRZ

16: Be Clear

I shouldn’t be working

No – not this, writing is part of my process and it’s hardly work

I shouldn’t be working on projects while I’m on holiday but yet I’ve struggled to switch off fully

I’m now having to deal with disgruntled third party suppliers over a compensation agreement that in hindsight I clearly wasn’t clear about

The issue wasn’t raised soon enough and now it seems to be problematic

Learned lesson

Be clear from the jump, what’s in it for you and what’s in it for them and see if you both agree

Trust me, it will save the both of you time later on and will keep both parties on good terms

Another lesson learned is to think win win in all situations, at all times

Be well

SRZ