44: Ego Is Still The Enemy

Ryan Holiday and his book ‘Ego is the Enemy’ is still impacting me

Just the other day I saw how my ego and ultimately insecurities can get in the way of my progress or even in a simpler way, my enjoyment of life

Pride and insecurities are two sides of the same coin. Both are ultimately emotions the ego uses to protect itself

There’s nothing harder than letting go of something when you feel like you’re in the right. That entitled feeling causes me to hold on to the ‘wrongs’ done to me like my life depended on it

My ego flares up, my pride comes to the forefront and in that moment, if left unchecked, I could behave in ways that could alter my life for the worst

Ego will always be with me. Ego will always seek to ‘protect me’ and ego will also get in my way if I leave it unchecked

So will yours too if you let it

Be well

SRZ

42: Where Your Treasure Is….

That’s where your heart is

Wanna know what someone really cares about despite what they tell you? Ask them two things

Where do you spend most of your time?

On what do you spend most of your money?

Ask most people to do something with you or for you and their excuse for not being able to usually falls somewhere between, “I can’t afford it” or “I don’t have time right now”

But the truth is we all have time for something….what is that something for you?

What or who would you make time for no matter what, regardless of what else could be going on in your life?

Whatever or whoever came to mind, that’s where your heart resides

We show we care by spending time and money, yet given the choice, most of us would choose the time over the money

Spending money is relative to the person spending it. If I’m a child with wealthy parents then I may not care all that much for their gifts and lavish lifestyles opportunities they bestow upon me. No, in that scenario i would much rather their time, them being wealthy only means that they most likely have limited time to spare

So I’d rather receive their time because in doing so they would demonstrate to me that I am a priority

Now, a pot of money from my working class parents would mean the world to me because I’d know fully well what they’ve sacrificed to get me those resources

So really and truly, our treasure resides where we are most willing to sacrifice

What have you being sacrificing recently?

Has it been worth it?

I hope so

Be well

SRZ

41: Too Many Directions

I feel like I’m being pulled in too many directions

Maybe I’m trying to do too much at once or perhaps I’m just not managing my time to the best of my abilities

I don’t even want to write anymore. I have nothing that I feel is worth saying. I’m maxed out

I don’t like writing ‘dear dairy’ content but lately it seems that’s all I have time to write

It’s time to buckle down. They say when you feel like you have the least time is when you should make the most time for yourself, get yourself balanced and centred

There’s only so much you can do as a person and there is only one direction you can run towards at any given time

So find a way to discover or in my case, rediscover the direction that is most important to you and head towards it

Ultimately we are all in control of our lives and therefore we should exert this incredible gift and take our lives forward in a manner that will make us most happy

Be well

SRZ

38: No Pedestals

Nobody is perfect so if you want to be, better think about how to become a nobody….

Okay, that’s a pretty lame joke but it’s tinged with a lot of truth

I have a tendency in relationships to place someone I’m interested in on a pedestal which frankly they probably didn’t ask for and if they did, that would be a major red flag

Don’t place anyone on a pedestal

They are just human. They do things they wish they hadn’t, they get embarrassed, they lie, they have hoped and dreams just like you and me

Placing them on a pedestal or bestowing on them characteristics that they do not have or have yet to demonstrate is a dangerous game and will only go to hurt you in the long run

I’ve recently started crushing (again) on a friend who was respectful and clear that she didn’t feel the same way, the first time I felt how I felt

My mind has been thinking about whether now could be a better time than last time, I wondered if she’s involved with anybody and that thought alone triggers an emotional reaction

That’s a red flag – on my part

I need to deal with that before it hinders my progress and social development in life

Truth is I will probably always feel something for her but the pedestal has to go

To place her on that level while ignoring my own worth is not only unhealthy but it’s equally unattractive

Why do I write all this?

Because it’s what I’m currently feeling, to write anything else would be tantamount to ignoring myself – another red flag

If you’re gonna have s pedestal that you place anybody on, try a higher power or a purpose or mission that inspires you to become that best you can be

Otherwise, no pedestals for anybody, including yourself. Don’t be a narcissist- you guessed it….it would just be another red flag

Be well

SRZ

34: Dead Time

Imagine being locked away from society because you needed to be rehabilitated?

That’s what each prisoner is doing while in jail, or at least that’s the idea. The time spent in prison will help them make better choices when they finally come out

We all know that hardly ever works, at least not for the majority of prisoners. Instead, once released, the inmate will most likely find a way to end up right back where they now feel they belong

Why?

Continue reading “34: Dead Time”

33: Good Work

There’s a certain kind of satisfaction that comes from having worked really hard on something you truly enjoy and put your all into

Nothing can take away from a good days work when you know you’ve done all you can do

Contentment and satisfaction are it’s own reward

Good work brings with it it’s own reward

Just thinking out loud

I am satisfied

Be well

SRZ

32: On The Eve Of Opportunity

Tomorrow opportunity awaits

In my case this is literally the case. Tomorrow I will film my very first corporate gig from my side hustle

For the next couple of months, it will become one of my main focuses, until the work is done

Hopefully work begets more work and leads to other opportunities

But here’s the thing. Everyday of our lives we are all on the eve of opportunity

Just moments away from things we presently can only dream of

Just keep walking towards them, doing all you know to do and trusting that when the time is right, the eve of opportunity will turn into the day of…

Be well

SRZ