51: Service

Life feels worthwhile when it’s been used for the betterment of others

Yes, that may come across as preachy, yes it’s probably an unpopular POV in what has become an extremely selfish world

But it doesn’t make it any less true

Being there for others, especially those you love and care about, those you are grateful to have in your life….it’s the best feeling in the world

Why spend your life consumed by selfish wants and needs when you can just as easily pass the time in service to your fellow man, in service to humanity

I’m not talking about complete disregard for your wants and needs because the irony of being helpful to others is you gain a greater sense of what actually fulfils you and what you want out of life

And even more ironic than that is you begin to realise that you already have that ‘feeling’ that you think those things outside of yourself would bring

It’s already within

Service is a great antidote to that feeling of emptiness. It’s a great shield against self centred worries and concerns that more often than not paralyse you into inaction

No service requires, demands even, that we act. Action is at the centre of a call to serve, engaging with the world and actually living life is what a life of service is all about

Serve others and without consideration for your own needs, you’ll soon discover that yours have been met too

Be well


35: Crawling Forward

I’m always amazed at the level of tiredness I feel after a production shoot

It’s a wrap for ‘first corporate gig’ – (super thrilled) and now it’s over to the edits

I literally can’t get anything more from my brain today so this was my best attempt at crawling forward

Be well


34: Dead Time

Imagine being locked away from society because you needed to be rehabilitated?

That’s what each prisoner is doing while in jail, or at least that’s the idea. The time spent in prison will help them make better choices when they finally come out

We all know that hardly ever works, at least not for the majority of prisoners. Instead, once released, the inmate will most likely find a way to end up right back where they now feel they belong


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24: Have Order

I hate order. Most so called creatives will say that.

After all, does the free bird not despise a cage? Doesn’t too much planning and structure destroy spontaneity?

The truth is, in most cases, the better ordered and structured our lives become, the more time it frees up for us to do the things we love the most

Order can be a vehicle through which spontaneity can be properly channelled. Structure gives us direction and guidance, without it we can burn ourselves out running to and fro with no real purpose or aim

An investor with no structured plan or guide is merely a gambler

A dog without a leash will chase every car, bird and distraction it encounters

A mind untrained to think things through thoroughly will be shaken up by every external event that arises

Order. Structure. Discipline

Words I consider burdensome yet I now realise I must work hard to befriend them and use them as allies

Because without them I won’t get as far as I could with them

Be well


15:Doing Nothing

So my flight was delayed for an hour on the runway before taking off. We landed an hour late (accordingly) and the delay made the journey feel that little bit extra long

I don’t know about you but once the initial sensation of a plane taking off subsides, the journey begins to feel like you’re just stuck in a box, sat beside groups of people who don’t know and most likely won’t get to know well enough to want to keep in touch

so after a while, all I want to do is just ‘get there’

And of course you do eventually get there and you quickly forget about your impatient feeling of getting there and begin to enjoy the new environment that you’re in

I’ve given myself Saturday and Sunday to ‘do nothing’ but relax and enjoy the scenery before doing all the ‘tours’ and ‘tourist activities’

My sleep was deep and long last night. I had to get used to the humidity and thickness of the ‘air’. I had to open all my windows plus my balcony door just so any fresh breeze would come in and give me respite from the heat

But once asleep, I was out like a light. I tend to wake up multiple times during the night and for some reason, I kept making a mental note of just how deep my sleep was. i was still up by 6am in the morning, so it’s not like I had a lie-in or anything, it’s just that when I’m home, my sleep can be shallow, what with my mind being often consumed with the cares of day to day living, it can sometimes be hard for me to switch off.

Thankfully, it seems as though I have managed to do just that while on vacay – i’ve switched off and will remain switched off even as I do little pieces of work here and there

I guess sometimes it’s great doing absolutely nothing 🙂

Be well


12: Become a Prosumer

We live in a capitalist society

We also live in a world where we are told that we are not enough and marketing companies exploit that fact

Every week there’s a new miracle diet, cosmetic line, fashion trend. In other words, a new special something to solve all your problems

If you feel you lack something, worry no more because here comes the news honey thing that will fix that lack in your life


There’s nothing wrong with it. I love the latest gadget, clothes and other stuff

But if that’s all I did

If all I ever wanted was to consume, consume, consume then guess what? Eventually all that consumption would consume me

At least I’d feel it in my bank account

Here comes that word again, balance. Something needs to balance out all that consumption


You need to be a producer. A producer creates, they bring something of value to the market place

Producing something will make you wealthy. However you measure wealth, money, love, loyalty, health. These things come from production not consumption

A productive individual actively works towards making things happen

If you produce nothing, you’ll earn nothing. If all you do is consume, eventually you’ll be consumed

But if you merge the two, you can comfortably be a ‘prosumer’ – a hybrid of of a producer and a consumer

That means you not only write the checks but you produce the paper it’s written on! Think about it

Close the circle between producing and consuming and the wheel will keep turning

You consume too much food and produce no energy output to balance it out and watch your body mass expand until it causes health problems

Even having money without letting go of some results in a hoarding stingy heart. Why do you think the wealthy are philanthropic?

The yin and yang keep the balance of man

Produce, consume then produce again

Be a prosumer

Food for thought

Be well


8: Expectations

The more things you expect from life, the more opportunities you give life to set you up for disappointment

The reverse is also true

Less expectations improves the chances that life may surprise you for the better

I’m learning to reduce my expectations

Expectations are just another side of the entitlement coin

I hope you’re enjoying your weekend

Be well


6: Stillness For Steel-ness

Okay, so steel-ness is not a word

But I hope the wordplay worked

I’m in need of some quiet time

I should make time to meditate and be still

But I haven’t done it in a long time

I keep putting it off. There’s never enough time

Yet my inner person is craving it

So why do I avoid something I crave so much?

Because I fear it at the same time

I worry that I won’t like who I find waiting for me within if I took the time to look

I’m worried that before steel-ness comes from stillness, it will break me first

Perhaps it’s all the frustration I fail to to discuss or disclose for fear of upsetting others

Or maybe it’s the disappointments I bury deep inside to help me better cope with life

Who truly knows?

The inner me does

I know this may all be too hippie dippie for some. Too woo woo for others and even bizarre for another set of people but this is me

I’m a mixture of urban black boy meets spiritual interests, centred and grounded in creative exploits

I can pretend to be someone else, something else but it would never satisfy me in the end

So stillness it is

At some point I will overcome the fear of what lies beneath the surface and decide to take a look

How bad can it be?

Be well


5: Do Not Drop The Ball

Just returning home from work

I left I don’t wear that as a badge of honour

At least not for the obvious reasons most people would brag about putting in long hours at work

“Do you know how hard I grind?! I won’t let anyone out work me!!”

Yeah I’m not bragging about it from that perspective

But I am proud of myself. I’m proud of the fact that I knew myself well enough to know that if I didn’t stay behind and do the additional work that’s recently began to pile up then it just wouldn’t get done

The ‘additional’ work was perhaps 20% 9-5 job and the rest of it was my personal dreams

Things I’ve been putting off and procrastinating on because I’ve been rationalising that ‘I’m tired’ ‘I just got home’ ‘Everyone needs a break’

Of course they do, we all do. Who doesn’t need a break from time to time? We all need to recharge and reset our batteries

But just be careful that your short pause to rest and catch a breath doesn’t turn into a permanent vegetative state

We all must keep it moving in life

Everything in moderation, all things in balance….but

Nobody said anything about having or keeping everything in perfect balance at all times

Sometimes you will feel overworked because your time is required in a work capacity more than usual

Other times it will be your personal life demanding more of you, more from you

And all you can do is keep the juggling act going

Do not drop the ball

Be well