2: 80:20

Ever heard of the Pareto principle?

Italian economist Vilfredo Pareto noticed that 80% of the wealth and land was owned by only 20% of the population

This mathematician figures out that there was a huge disproportionate group of people struggling while a small number of people thrived

This rule has gone on to be duplicated in all forms of life including business and personal

You spend 80% of your time with 20% of your friends and family

20% of your clients are responsible for 80% of your business income

Etc etc etc

So with that in mind – how can you and I figure out what and who these 20% factors so we can work towards increasing our focus on them

This is what I’m currently thinking about. My mind is chewing on this equation and how it applies to my life

Still thinking about it 🙂

Be well


1: Celebrate The Journey

“You’ve had a great year you know” her voice, although slightly tired for an early Saturday afternoon was as sweet as ever

Nicole was still serving as my cheerleader, personal motivator and best friend, “do you ever stop and actually celebrate your wins?” She asks, “erm, yeah…guess so” I haphazardly reply but she knows me well enough to see past that

“No, you don’t and that’s a shame. You should stop every once in a while and celebrate how far you’ve come” she continues “in fact, that should be the topic of your next blog”

“Good idea” I reply, “are you gonna credit me in the post?” She asks through a smile that I can picture even though I can’t see her (I’m not one for FaceTime, she wouldn’t mind) “why would I do that?” I retort and she let’s out her signature ‘Nicole laugh’ – our phone conversation continues as normal about our day to day lives but the point she made sticks with me

So here I am writing about celebrating the journey regardless of whether we’ve made it to our destination yet or not

Small victories are worthy of our self praise, celebrations and can actually help reinforce our self belief in what we are ultimately working to accomplish

This year, one of my feature films was selected for two film festivals. I completed a documentary that will be coming out in America (my first international project!) at the end of this year or early next year

I filmed a low budget feature film over the summer called ‘Insanity’ – a drama about break ups and break downs and that will soon be in the post production stages –

I’m writing my final film for 2018 that I hope to film in December as it’s Christmas themed – if I achieve that then I would of essentially made three feature length films this year

I also secured my first corporate contract for film making and although it’s still a current contract that I’ve yet to fulfil, my eyes have been opened to the possibilities out there for future corporate work centred around filmmaking

As an introvert I went out more this year than ever before. I still turn down most social invitations but now it’s because I’ve learned even more about myself and as stupid as it sounds coming from an introvert: I like my own company and like being alone for long periods of time

Theres also a bunch of other projects that are in various stages of development that I’m somehow involved in, directing, producing, project managing or what have you

So yes it’s been a very good year in some respects

Not to mention, this blog: although very slow in growing it, I at least stuck with my commitment to write a post daily. For the most part, I’ve kept up with that

Listing the above just reminds me of two things: 1) success is a science and you can get a lot done if you just try and apply yourself and you do it consistently

I don’t even feel or classify myself as successful (yet) but yet the results are slowly starting to build up

2) none of it will make you happy because happiness is an art, not a science. You can have the whole world and still feel soulless. Sometimes, this year I’ve felt the lowest I’ve ever felt because although I achieved ‘things’ – maybe I felt lonely, discouraged or plain unhappy with myself or my life

Relationships are were it’s at. Life feels sweeter when experienced with others

Anyone can purchase a house but it’s the people within it who will make it feel like a home

So celebrate your small wins, it’s part of the art of being a more fulfilled human being

Be well


89: Freedom

Who doesn’t want it? Who ever said that they’d prefer to work and slave away at a job they hate until the day they collapsed?

What does freedom mean to you?

There are all kinds of freedoms that we as a society have fought for and continue to fight for

The fundamental ones include but are not limited to

  • Human freedom: i.e abolished slavery. Unfortunately this is a continued fight across the world as people are trafficked into forced labour of many forms
  • Love freedom: the fight for people of all backgrounds to love whoever they choose, however they choose and whenever
  • Gender freedoms: equality of all kinds, equal pay, gender equality period
  • Religious freedom: the fight to give people the right to believe and worship whatever they deem worthy of their praise and adoration.

And many more freedoms that have helped society to progressively move forward

These freedoms have not come cheap and I’m merely scraping the surface of their true cost

I wanted to keep this light. The main point being that the human spirit was never designed to feel trapped or caged by anything

Our natural disposition as a species is to grow and evolve, each generation learning from the previous one

But that’s us as a whole, on a wider scale. What about at an individual level? We all have specific freedoms that were either still actively fighting for

Mine are uniquely my own as yours will be to you

As I sit here thinking about the things I want out of life, the person I’d like to become and the things I’d still like to experience

I can’t help but feel fortunate that though I may still have a long way to go, the many things I’ve already experienced, are things that would appear in someone else’s wish list

We all have those accomplishments. We all have lucky experiences that others are hoping to one day experience

We should (and I hate to should on people) be grateful for our freedoms even if to us they appear limited

It could be a lot worse

Be well


85: Shift Happens

Nothing last forever

I’m grateful for that fact. Looking back to certain moments in my life that truly felt like hell on earth, I’m so grateful that they didn’t last forever ( like it felt they would at the time)

Things show up for a moment and then fortunately (or unfortunately), the moment passes

It’s almost like we as human beings are either enduring or enjoying a phase of our lives at any given moment

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84: Newtons Law

Objects in motion will remain in motion unless acted upon by an external force

Objects not in motion will remain not in motion unless acted upon by an external force

This is one of Isaac Newton’s laws that has helped shape our world

I am living that law this very minute. Truth be told, I am always subject to this basic law of life, as are you and everything else

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80: Know Your Worth

I used to ask people to do things for free to help me achieve my objectives

I asked them to do it for free because I didn’t have the money to pay them

Most people I approached (98%) were willing to do it and I have greatly appreciated this support

Now as things slowly begin to turn around and I financially make progress, I’m starting to recognise the value and benefit of paying people as close to what they’re worth as possible

I still ask for freebies and in turn work for free or find other ‘in kind’ support but I’m slowly growing up to the fact that all of us are worth so much

And if we have managed to craft a skill and develop a talent that the market values, then we should be compensated for it accordingly

Working for free is invaluable experience. It builds up your self confidence and provides a soft landing pad to fail

There is not as much at stake and you also gain the benefit of working for the passion, the love and the sake of doing good work alone. This becomes your reward. Your true reward

But there will come a time when you will need to shift from being a ‘Free’lancer to charging what you think your work is worth and sticking with it

And if the person hiring does not recognise or value your work at the same rate that you do, be willing to walk away if need be until you find the right client willing to pay you your worth

Know your worth

If you’re right at the beginning of your path, ‘freebies’ are the way to go

You work hard enough on that craft and it turns into a skill worth paying for

You are invaluable as a person from the day of your birth

But your worth to the market place increases with effort and focus

Know your worth

Be well


50: Easy To Form, Hard To Break

Bad habits

They destroy lives in the most sinister way, how? by creating shackles around a poor soul and dragging them down to a baseless form of existence

Bad habits are easy to form

They are often pleasurable and comforting in the beginning. They make us feel temporarily better in the short term and often they are a quick fix in changing our state

You know what your bad habits are

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Do Your Homework

During a conversation with a friend of mine who is a hairdresser and owner of her own boutique salon, I asked her whether she ever thought about expanding, “oh my gosh! The last couple of weeks I’ve been thinking about how to further what I do and how I should really crunch the numbers and be ready and now here you are asking me” she replied

We went back and forth on the possibilities and how our aspirations could potentially align and allow us to partner up and work together Continue reading “Do Your Homework”