51: Service

Life feels worthwhile when it’s been used for the betterment of others

Yes, that may come across as preachy, yes it’s probably an unpopular POV in what has become an extremely selfish world

But it doesn’t make it any less true

Being there for others, especially those you love and care about, those you are grateful to have in your life….it’s the best feeling in the world

Why spend your life consumed by selfish wants and needs when you can just as easily pass the time in service to your fellow man, in service to humanity

I’m not talking about complete disregard for your wants and needs because the irony of being helpful to others is you gain a greater sense of what actually fulfils you and what you want out of life

And even more ironic than that is you begin to realise that you already have that ‘feeling’ that you think those things outside of yourself would bring

It’s already within

Service is a great antidote to that feeling of emptiness. It’s a great shield against self centred worries and concerns that more often than not paralyse you into inaction

No service requires, demands even, that we act. Action is at the centre of a call to serve, engaging with the world and actually living life is what a life of service is all about

Serve others and without consideration for your own needs, you’ll soon discover that yours have been met too

Be well


34: Dead Time

Imagine being locked away from society because you needed to be rehabilitated?

That’s what each prisoner is doing while in jail, or at least that’s the idea. The time spent in prison will help them make better choices when they finally come out

We all know that hardly ever works, at least not for the majority of prisoners. Instead, once released, the inmate will most likely find a way to end up right back where they now feel they belong


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24: Have Order

I hate order. Most so called creatives will say that.

After all, does the free bird not despise a cage? Doesn’t too much planning and structure destroy spontaneity?

The truth is, in most cases, the better ordered and structured our lives become, the more time it frees up for us to do the things we love the most

Order can be a vehicle through which spontaneity can be properly channelled. Structure gives us direction and guidance, without it we can burn ourselves out running to and fro with no real purpose or aim

An investor with no structured plan or guide is merely a gambler

A dog without a leash will chase every car, bird and distraction it encounters

A mind untrained to think things through thoroughly will be shaken up by every external event that arises

Order. Structure. Discipline

Words I consider burdensome yet I now realise I must work hard to befriend them and use them as allies

Because without them I won’t get as far as I could with them

Be well


10: Invest

See everything you do as an investment

At least that’s what I’m starting to tell myself

It’s time to juggle my dreams with my day job and my personal life and none of them seem to be letting up

See all of it as an investment

Every effort

Every hour past quitting time at the day job

Every choice to do the things that I once out off

It’s all a big investment that will pay off some day in the future if I don’t get tired and give up

The first corporate contract that I write about winning is now demanding that I fulfil the big talk I gave to obtain it in the first place

I’ll need to invest time to deliver on that contract.

My new script fell to the wayside and now I’ve decided that I’ll have it done by this Sunday, why? So I’m forced to write

I’ll need to invest time to make that possible

Just like my money, I can waste or invest my time. Only one of those choices will give me a fighting chance of seeing returns

I’ll invest

Be well


9: You Already Know

Deep down you do

Your gut instinct is never wrong and if you think or feel that it is, it’s probably more a sign of you not trusting yourself anymore having previously not listened to your own gut

“How could I of been so wrong about this?” Every heard someone say that?

Ever been the one to say that yourself?

Have you ever been so wrong about someone? Only to later say, “you know what, deep down I kind of already knew she/he was like this”

Relationships of any kind are based on trust. You want to believe that the person is who they say and are portraying themselves to be

You want to trust that their yes really does mean yes and no’s really do mean no and that “I do” and “I’ve got your back” and “we are family” all mean what the person saying them really thinks and feels

The problem comes when your gut instinct tells you otherwise. When you’re seeing one thing but feeling something completely opposite, be mindful of this

Don’t ignore it

Deal with it head on, speak up, explore, investigate further until you prove yourself right

A word of caution: sometimes your fears, doubts and worries can cloud your judgment. That feeling is not gut instinct, that’s just plain old fear and it can cause you to self sabotage great things in your life

It’s the untrusting partner accusing their trustworthy significant other for no other reason other than in the past they were burned and now they don’t trust anybody

You’ll lose

Anytime you allow fear to take over you, you will eventually lose out

A knowing gut instinct feeling is different, it rarely screams at you and it doesn’t cause you to panic….it may make your heart sink because every time the thought comes to mind you wish it wasn’t the case even though deep down you know it is

It may cause you to appear to be acting blindly and irrationally by those on the outside looking in, but you’ll know that there is a reason for your actions because intuition will guide you

Deep down you already know

So trust whatever it is you know and act accordingly

Be well


6: Stillness For Steel-ness

Okay, so steel-ness is not a word

But I hope the wordplay worked

I’m in need of some quiet time

I should make time to meditate and be still

But I haven’t done it in a long time

I keep putting it off. There’s never enough time

Yet my inner person is craving it

So why do I avoid something I crave so much?

Because I fear it at the same time

I worry that I won’t like who I find waiting for me within if I took the time to look

I’m worried that before steel-ness comes from stillness, it will break me first

Perhaps it’s all the frustration I fail to to discuss or disclose for fear of upsetting others

Or maybe it’s the disappointments I bury deep inside to help me better cope with life

Who truly knows?

The inner me does

I know this may all be too hippie dippie for some. Too woo woo for others and even bizarre for another set of people but this is me

I’m a mixture of urban black boy meets spiritual interests, centred and grounded in creative exploits

I can pretend to be someone else, something else but it would never satisfy me in the end

So stillness it is

At some point I will overcome the fear of what lies beneath the surface and decide to take a look

How bad can it be?

Be well


5: Do Not Drop The Ball

Just returning home from work

I left I don’t wear that as a badge of honour

At least not for the obvious reasons most people would brag about putting in long hours at work

“Do you know how hard I grind?! I won’t let anyone out work me!!”

Yeah I’m not bragging about it from that perspective

But I am proud of myself. I’m proud of the fact that I knew myself well enough to know that if I didn’t stay behind and do the additional work that’s recently began to pile up then it just wouldn’t get done

The ‘additional’ work was perhaps 20% 9-5 job and the rest of it was my personal dreams

Things I’ve been putting off and procrastinating on because I’ve been rationalising that ‘I’m tired’ ‘I just got home’ ‘Everyone needs a break’

Of course they do, we all do. Who doesn’t need a break from time to time? We all need to recharge and reset our batteries

But just be careful that your short pause to rest and catch a breath doesn’t turn into a permanent vegetative state

We all must keep it moving in life

Everything in moderation, all things in balance….but

Nobody said anything about having or keeping everything in perfect balance at all times

Sometimes you will feel overworked because your time is required in a work capacity more than usual

Other times it will be your personal life demanding more of you, more from you

And all you can do is keep the juggling act going

Do not drop the ball

Be well


3: What’s The Worst That Could Happen?

I’m digging into ‘The 4 Hour Work Week’ Book by Tim Ferris and really am enjoying it

It’s definitely redefining the way I think about work, my approach to work and ultimately even my outlook on life as a whole

The author has this equation for measuring risk and perhaps mitigating and minimising those risks so that you feel empowered to take the risk and break away from a life of boredom and discontentment

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