79: When You’re Sick

I’m unwell

I feel poorly and under the weather and felt like this is a perfect time to do nothing

This blogging goes from feeling like a burden to feeling like a habit

But until I feel better I reserve the right to no write a single thing if I don’t feel like it

So I won’t be writing a thing if I don’t feel like it

I’m writing this to inform myself not you

I made a commitment to write daily no matter what but I want out of that commitment because I’m not in the mental headspace to keep to it

I’m not in the physical headspace

So this is a way for me to give myself an out

Be well

SRZ

78: Automated

Wouldn’t it be nice if our life paths were all pre-determined?

How much simpler would things be if at some given age – let’s say 15 years old – you open the mailbox to find your personalized Life Map, laying out all of the major decisions you’ll have to make in life well in advance. It could tell you things like:

• What kind of education to get.

• Who you’re going to marry.

• Which career to pursue.

And everything else that we tend to agonize and second guess ourselves over until we wish someone would just make the decisions for us.

Everything would be pretty straightforward.

We could do away with all this doubt and wondering what to do with our lives.

We’d just follow the plan, and everything would turn out fine.

The only problem?

You would become unfathomably bored.

We humans like to think we’re simple, but the reality is we’re actually rather complicated creatures.

There are 6 things that humans need in order to be fulfilled.

1. Certainty

2. Variety

3. A feeling of importance

4. Love & Connection

5. Growth

6. Contribution

You don’t need to read past number 2 to realize we contradict ourselves even on our most basic desires.

Certainty and variety?

We need both to be happy.

Too much uncertainty, and we get anxious. We feel overwhelmed and bogged down by choices.

We feel lost in the woods without a path to guide us, never sure what’s up ahead or if we’re even headed in the right direction.

If you’ve ever felt that way, you know it can be debilitating and discouraging.

You become paralyzed by inaction, because you don’t know which action to take.

And yet you feel dissatisfied where you are, because you’re not making any progress.

On the other hand, having too much certainty can be just as bad.

When people know exactly what’s going to happen in their lives, they tend to lose interest.

Things become repetitive. We simply go through the motions, no longer engaged in what we’re doing, no longer learning or adapting or acting on impulse.

This is why so many marriages become stale and jobs become mundane.

We’ve stopped surprising our partner and growing with them; we no longer find our work a challenge.

Fulfillment lies somewhere between certainty and variety.

If you really had all the answers, life would become unbearably boring.

So rest assured that not knowing everything is absolutely okay.

When you feel lost in life, you’re usually not as far off track as you think.

And the best place to start is exactly where you are.

It all comes from decisions. Start by making one right now to move forwards.

The direction doesnt matter as much as the motion.

Even if you’re heading down the wrong track, you can use the momentum to correct course later.

You can’t steer a stationary ship.

At any given time we usually have a few ideas in our heads for things we could be doing.

The problem is we’re too scared to actually pick one and make a move on it.

Choose one of your current ideas, preferably a small one, and commit to it.

Decide that you’re going to act on that idea and you’re going to follow through.

It could be something as small as waking up early every morning to go for a run, or going to a seminar you’re curious about.

Don’t do anything too drastic this early on.

The goal in the beginning is just to get moving and shake the rust off your wheels.

After you’ve made this decision and followed through, try it again with another one.

It can be slightly bigger this time. Once you see that one through, try it again with something bigger.

What you’re doing is investigating your interests that have gone ignored, while at the same time building confidence in your decision making.

There’s a good chance that one of your ideas will materialize into something more – an area of interest you hadn’t thought about, a skill you didn’t know you had, a connection that can help you get started on a new path.

Eventually – and I can’t say when exactly – you’re going to look around and realize you’re heading somewhere.

You might not know exactly where just yet, but you will know that it’s somewhere new, and most likely somewhere better.

The evidence will be undeniable.

You’ll be making progress, even if you don’t know exactly what you’re progressing towards.

You don’t need exact GPS coordinates for where you’re heading.

Your inner compass will tell you whether you’re moving in the right direction or not.

That’s all you really need.

Remember that if you did have exact GPS coordinates for your destination, if you did have everything laid out for you in an easy to follow guide, that you would lose interest very quickly.

None of us knows exactly where we’ll end up. That’s what makes it all so interesting.

As Steve Jobs said: You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.

Keep moving forward, trust that the dots will connect for you, and one day you’ll look back to see they did.

Be well

SRZ

77: Enjoy Good Company

I live with a flat mate

I’ve known him longer than I haven’t. I enjoy his company very much. He makes me laugh as a true friend should and he advises and counsels me, in the only way a true friend would

I’m reminded that life is much better lived and enjoyed when spent in the presence of great company

Enjoy, appreciate and cherish those around you, who make you smile, who allow you to deal and cope with life more easily

Great company makes everything much better

Be well

SRZ

76: Bursting Bubbles

I’ve been ‘away in business’ for the last week

I didn’t travel too far, just up to Scotland to help the team

It’s been great to be away from my day to day workload, I’ve had little to do up as I’ve played the support role rather than the ‘manager – leadership’ role

I realised a few things that I’ve struggled to admit to myself or perhaps I’m still a little unclear about where I stand

Either I’m burnt out or tired of doing the same thing over and over again

Yet, that feeling doesn’t seem quite right as when I really think about my job, my team and the company I work for, hand on heart I can honestly say I enjoy all of it. I’m comfortable there

And there it is

There lies my issue. The nagging feeling working my last nerves….the discomfort I feel with being too comfortable

Life shouldn’t be lived with inertia. It shouldn’t be lived so comfortably that growth slows down and then stops altogether

Being comfortable is a double edged sword of its own. It feels great but eroded your inner strength, your inner fight and resolve to resist and reject mediocrity

Being comfortable takes it all away and what you’re left with is….let’s face it, boredom

There’s worse things to be than bored but that doesn’t make boredom acceptable

Time to start breaking this lovely comfortable bubble that I’ve built and get back in the game

It’s time to get back in shape – in every sense of that word, mental, physical, emotional and yes…..spiritual too

Bubbles are made for bursting

Time to burst mine

Be well

SRZ

75: Adapt

My friend and business partner thinks my writing has become depressing

He has a point to be fair

And to be even more fair, he only mentioned that after I was telling him that I feel a little brunt out with all the writing

So burnt out that I barely noticed when I skipped a day of blogging yesterday

It’s true to say that I maybe have ran it of things to express

It’s also true to say that human beings can adapt. We are nature’s greatest adaptation creatures and we thrive under stress

So, it’s time to suck it up and adapt. I wrote about pushing through, now it’s time for me to do that or at least find a way to do that

Right now, I can only think about word count and writing longer pieces with more insight

I feel like I don’t have time for that amount of work but that’s exactly what I need

It’s time to adapt

So I’ll work towards that. Watch this space

Be well

SRZ

73: Pushing Through

For the longest time, the last thing I’ve wanted to do is write

I don’t like what I’m currently writing about

Inspiration left the building maybe 50 blog posts ago, if not longer

But I write

Even if it’s just a few sentences at a time. I’ll write what I can. Daily

But what I’m now challenging myself with is the push through

It’s no longer enough to say inspiration has left me but hey look at how great I am that I’m still writing something

No

There must be substance to my writing, I must push through the lack of inspiration, the lack of motivation and genuine interest in writing

Pushing through is what we all need to do if we have any hopes of getting somewhere, anywhere in life

The irony is that closely related to pushing through is letting things be

Life will take us through so many twists and turns and lead us to some unexpected destinations

We do ourselves no favours when we try to force things to happen that life just doesn’t want to allow

So, push through yes. Do everything you can to get wherever it is you’re seeking to go but then…..let it all go and see where life takes you

Be well

SRZ

72: Colds and Scottish Weather

I’ve been dealing with a cold for the last two weeks…flu like symptoms, headaches and chesty coughs

I’ve been sent to Livingston Scotland to support the team up here

Writing seems to be low on my priority list. I have no motivation for this. Thankfully I’m fully initiated to the fact that motivation or feeling motivated is not what gets the job done

So I’ll crawl before I can walk and write whatever I can

This is it

I wrote as much as I could

Be well

SRZ