Win like a Loser

Day Nineteen

There’s nothing like a sore loser feeling entitled to win

I’m almost at the end of the ‘Mindset’ book by Carol Dweck. For anybody interested in real personal growth that has nothing to do with quick fixes or cute short term fads that inevitably fade away. This is the book for you.

The book focuses on Mindset, hence the title. In particular, it focuses on two very distinct mindsets. A fixed mindset and a growth mindset.

What is a growth mindset? The inner belief and attitude that potential can be developed through effort.

A fixed mindset believes that potential is fixed and there’s nothing you can do to change it.

In other words, those with a fixed mindset believe that you’re either born smart or dumb, born talented or not and have athletic capabilities or lack them but you certainly can’t acquire any of these things as you develop and grow as a person.

In other other words. You’re either born a winner or else you’re a loser.

So here is how to win with a fixed mindset.

– Only try things you already know you are good at.

– Never rehearse, train or study to become smarter, sharper or stronger at anything. Solely rely on innate ability.

– Consider yourself as special, gifted and talented. Consume yourself with selfishness and self adoration.

– Blame everything and everyone but yourself when you lose. Perhaps it was too cold/hot. You pen didn’t work properly during the test which impacted your brain from answering the questions correctly. You get the idea “it was a fraudulent election, there’s no way I lost!”

So there you have it. If you follow the above guidelines, you will develop a strong fixed mindset, you will never truly discover what your true potential is and you will live with a high insecurity of being found out to not be as talented or special as you go out of your way to claim that you are.

Fixed mindset people win in life, growth mindset people win in life. Neither mindset prevent you from winning, but only one prevents you from becoming more than you ever could imagine was possible for you.

On the flip side, here is a brief formula for developing a growth mindset

– Decide where you want to go and who you’d like to become. Recognise that only effort will get you there.

– WORK your ass off to get as good or potentially even great as you can. Learning every step of the way.

– learn from every defeat and refuse to buy into the hype of your wins. Love the work, work that love through practice and watch what happens.



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