Nobody is perfect so if you want to be, better think about how to become a nobody….
Okay, that’s a pretty lame joke but it’s tinged with a lot of truth
I have a tendency in relationships to place someone I’m interested in on a pedestal which frankly they probably didn’t ask for and if they did, that would be a major red flag
Don’t place anyone on a pedestal
They are just human. They do things they wish they hadn’t, they get embarrassed, they lie, they have hoped and dreams just like you and me
Placing them on a pedestal or bestowing on them characteristics that they do not have or have yet to demonstrate is a dangerous game and will only go to hurt you in the long run
I’ve recently started crushing (again) on a friend who was respectful and clear that she didn’t feel the same way, the first time I felt how I felt
My mind has been thinking about whether now could be a better time than last time, I wondered if she’s involved with anybody and that thought alone triggers an emotional reaction
That’s a red flag – on my part
I need to deal with that before it hinders my progress and social development in life
Truth is I will probably always feel something for her but the pedestal has to go
To place her on that level while ignoring my own worth is not only unhealthy but it’s equally unattractive
Why do I write all this?
Because it’s what I’m currently feeling, to write anything else would be tantamount to ignoring myself – another red flag
If you’re gonna have s pedestal that you place anybody on, try a higher power or a purpose or mission that inspires you to become that best you can be
Otherwise, no pedestals for anybody, including yourself. Don’t be a narcissist- you guessed it….it would just be another red flag