Nothing last forever
I’m grateful for that fact. Looking back to certain moments in my life that truly felt like hell on earth, I’m so grateful that they didn’t last forever ( like it felt they would at the time)
Things show up for a moment and then fortunately (or unfortunately), the moment passes
It’s almost like we as human beings are either enduring or enjoying a phase of our lives at any given moment
Enduring: This is the phase where nothing is going the way we hoped, planned or wished for it to go. It’s the redundancy we never saw coming, the heartbreak that has obliterated our hearts or the tragedy we are forced to go through with no prior warning or heads up
Enduring is an obviously difficult phase of life. It often feels like it will never end. Situations appear insurmountable, leaving us feeling insignificant in comparison
Have you ever been through a problem that seemed too big to overcome? Too complicated to ever be resolved?
What did that feel like? Or maybe I should be asking: what DOES that feel like? Because chances are someone reading this is enduring a problem or situation of this magnitude right now
It will pass. It always does
But while you’re still in it, all you can do is endure. Now, when I hear the word endure, for some reason, what comes to mind is the image of a person being curled up in a foetus ball on the floor while being repeatedly kicked by life
That is what comes to mind when I think about enduring but that’s not what I actually mean
I don’t mean that we should endure life by curling up in a ball and holding on while we are constantly attacked
Enduring to me is about recognising that the season you are currently in is not designed for you to feel good about yourself and yet here you are waking up, showering, dressing up and going out there to face the world head on
Enduring is realising that you will be met with rejection and criticism every step of the way and still choosing to knock on the next door all the same
Enduring is feeling incompetent and still trying to improve, even in the face of open mockery from others
You endure
You continue
You put your head down and you focus on whatever you think you should be doing right this moment
Sometimes the pain feels so bad that just breathing in and out is a chore. The disappointment can feel like a gut punch that leaves you gasping for the next breath, wheezing and coughing out blood
Life can be brutal that way and none of us will get out alive
But all of us must endure our own burdens. We should also never compare or trade war stories of who has it worse
It’s all relative to the person experiencing it. Someone may shrug of a rejection for a date with ease and move on with their lives. While others relive it daily until the last shred of self dignity is drained from them, leaving a lowly figure in its wake
We all endure in our own way because soon enough, one day, when you least suspect it, everything shifts and suddenly you land a big win
Now, suddenly you’re no longer needing to endure life because you are greatly enjoying it
Enjoying: This is the phase where you can do no wrong. You have the Midas touch and everything you do, say and want turns to gold right before your eyes
Alchemy becomes part of your daily vocabulary
You have an idea and before you know it, all things seem to be conspiring to make it happen for you
Have you ever felt that?
Ever felt like life was conspiring to bring good things to you? That you met the right person at the right time even when you weren’t aware that you were looking
Have you ever had good luck? Do you know what it feels like to be on a winning streak?
I hope you do, and if not, I hope you find out what it feels like soon
It’s amazing
It’s the feeling of falling in love
Winning your first big contract
Accomplishing a life dream/ goal
Ticking something off your bucket list
Being around friends and family and feeling like you are loved, appreciated and cherished
Laughing so hard that tears stream down your cheeks because you’re having such a great time and you realise in that moment, that you are so happy
Seeing and feeling the awe inducing wonders that this world has to offer
Yes, Life can truly give us such enjoyable moments that it’s no wonder most of us would wish some things did last forever
I personally wish mutual love lasted forever. People I love and care for would live forever and good luck would stay with me forever
But eventually shift happens and life changes (again)
What are we to do then?
Most often, especially in good and happy times, we get so attached to our circumstances and seasons that when the shift occurs, we feel blindsided
Disappointment quickly follows and before you know it we are back to enduring life again
But it need not always be like this
We can choose to let go
Allow things to flow in and out of our lives in whatever pattern and randomness life presents them to us
Ultimately we will always come out on top
One shift will always follow another and then another. So on and so forth
So no matter what state you’re in right now, just wait. Things will soon shift
Be well
SRZ
“While others relive it daily until the last shred of self dignity is drained from them, leaving a lowly figure in its wake.”
Powerful words about rejection. I liked how you used “self dignity.”
A request/presentation itself is someone who is throwing something they love and esteem at the person for acceptance or rejection. It takes a strong person to deal with constant rejection. Too much can break a person’s self-esteem or, in your words, dignity.
Good thoughts! Thanks for sharing this post!
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Thanks for stopping by Beth, it’s always greatly appreciated. I especially like the fact that your feedback is always specific to something you enjoyed or liked about the piece. It speaks volumes that you’d take the time to be so consistent.
I’m looking forward to enjoying more of your writing 🙂
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My pleasure! I speak as I find, and always enjoy your posts. Thanks for your kind words!
Have a great day!
-Beth
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