25: What’s On Your Mind?

“We become what we think about” according to Earl Nightingale. He was one of the early forerunners of the success movement that would later morph into Tony Robbins and even more recently, Gary Vaynerchuck.


What’s been on your mind lately? If the thoughts which currently dominate your mind were to manifest would you be delighted?

I’m not only talking ‘The Law if attraction’ here, though that has its place and some validity

I’m just talking about things on a basic common level.

If we allow our minds to be consumed by worries, doubts, negative thoughts and what have you then how can we expect to lead positive, successful lives?

Even more practical than that is how can we be happy if our minds are consumed by thoughts that give us every reason not to be?

So, what’s been on your mind lately?

Is it truly worthy of your headspace?

Mental wellness is critical for all of us in leading a productive life

Do your best to monitor the thoughts you permit to occupy your mind and the rest will take care of itself

I write this as aspirational advice directed at mainly me

Be well


24: Have Order

I hate order. Most so called creatives will say that.

After all, does the free bird not despise a cage? Doesn’t too much planning and structure destroy spontaneity?

The truth is, in most cases, the better ordered and structured our lives become, the more time it frees up for us to do the things we love the most

Order can be a vehicle through which spontaneity can be properly channelled. Structure gives us direction and guidance, without it we can burn ourselves out running to and fro with no real purpose or aim

An investor with no structured plan or guide is merely a gambler

A dog without a leash will chase every car, bird and distraction it encounters

A mind untrained to think things through thoroughly will be shaken up by every external event that arises

Order. Structure. Discipline

Words I consider burdensome yet I now realise I must work hard to befriend them and use them as allies

Because without them I won’t get as far as I could with them

Be well


23: Back To Basics

I’m finally back in London and guess what?

It’s been raining 😦

No surprises there really but still, one can’t help but feel a slight tings of disappointment to be back to my reality

Let’s not confuse that with me not loving my home. I absolutely love London, after all, there’s no place like home right?

I always look forward to landing at either Heathrow or Gatwick airport for one specific reason: the ‘there’s no place like home’ surge of emotions I get upon landing safely

It never fails to put everything into perspective

But now that I’m back. It’s time to get to work. I’ve done enough laying about, sunbathing, exploring, eating, basically I’ve rested enough and now it’s time to get back in motion

Back to the writing, back to the filming, back to my life basically and most importantly, back to the basics of my life

I realise what a self indulgent post this one is. Apologies for that

Be well


21: Into The Wild

If you’re ever in Tenerife and are into wild life, I’d encourage you to take a trip to Loro Parque

And if you do decide to make the trip, please book the ‘Discovery Tour’ which will take you backstage around the park while your guide teaches you the extreme lengths this organisation are going to as they try to preserve endangered Animals

The whole park is just a wonder to behold. I would never normally do this, I mean, I have London Zoo, just around the corner from me but other than childhood school trips, I’ve never had an interest to visit

Now I do

It was a fitting way for me to end my vacation

There’s so much more I could write but I think I want to stay carefree for my journey home

I feel relaxed and connected

I’m at the airport with a smile – heading back to reality and mentally already plotting out my next adventure

Be well


20: Don’t be passionate

Imagine that!

What book would advocate for its readers not to be passionate?

Ryan Holidays!

In Ego is the Enemy – Ryan suggests that the reason why so many of us fail to actually accomplish anything is because we are too passionate about it. We care so much that we consume our time with talking about our passions rather than doing something about it

Passion can be seen in those who can tell you in great detail who they intend to become and what their success will be like – they might even be able to tell you specifically when they intend to achieve it or describe to you legitimate and sincere worries they have about the burdens of such accomplishments. They can tell you all the things they’re going to do, or have even begun, but they cannot show you their progress. Because there rarely is any

Those of us with great visions of grandeur may be able to articulate exactly what it is we will accomplish in this world but ask anybody of true grit and experience and they will tell you just how hard it is to make anything of yourself

It certainly doesn’t require passion to do so

Passion typically masks weakness

Are we trying to compensate for our lack of experience or competence in our chosen field of endeavours by being so ‘passionate’ about it?

What humans require in our ascent is purpose and realism

Ryan seems to think we are and I think he’s managed to get me to agree.

I only need to use my own life as a case study for this. As I read this chapter I simultaneously reflected on my life and the multiple things I’ve once been passionate about

Most of them I did not follow through with, many of them I barely got started with and yet if you had met me at the time of my intense passion for any one of those things, I’m confident I would of sold you on my dreams and aspirations at the time

Dreams and aspirations that would later fade into the memories of my yesteryears

What I needed was not passion or at least not passion alone but rather a heavy dose of realism.

Had I known the reality of what it would truly take to actualise my passions, I would not be bragging about them because I’d be so concerned with the many pitfalls that day in and day out my time would be consumed with preparation, execution, feedback, adjustment and execution again

While doing all of that – I don’t think I’d have time to be so ‘passionate’

The critical work that you want to do will require your deliberation and consideration. Not passion

Needless to say, this chapter gave me much to think about in how I presently approach my work

Be well


19: Ego Is The Enemy

So I’ve finished reading ‘The 4 Hour Work Week’ by Tim Ferris and now I’ve picked up this

I’m already 5 or 6 chapters in and in my opinion Ryan Holiday is a genius, for the simple fact that he probably would despise being called a genius

So far in Ego is the enemy, I have discovered that our lack of success in relationship, chosen career and ultimately: Life! Comes down to one simple thing: EGO

As I read this book, my own ego is taking a beating, left, right and centre because I recognise myself in the many anecdotes Ryan uses to illustrate the points he’s making

I am discovering just how focused on outward ‘success’ I have become as opposed to doing good work because it benefits everyone to do so

As I move through the chapters, my entitled mentality, my need for recognition and desire to be ‘better’ than, have ‘more’ than others begins to rise up to the surface

I don’t know how I’ll feel by the end of reading this book but as I progress through it right now, one thing is certain, I’m finally reading a book that feels timely to my life experience right now

If I have any hope of side stepping my ego so that I can truly do things that matter even if only to me, then I think I need to internalise this book

I used this view to contemplate the things I had learned today

Be well